Social Connection

Your time at ñ is about more than classes and assignments. For many Buffs, college is also a time to build community, form meaningful relationships and create friendships that last beyond graduation.

Connection can look different for everyone, and that’s okay. What matters most is finding people and spaces where you feel comfortable being yourself.

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Tips for Finding Connection

Building relationships takes time, and there’s no single “right way” to do it. Some students find their people right away. For others, it takes longer, and both experiences are completely normal.

You might thrive in large groups or prefer a few close friends. You may “try on” different communities before finding the right fit. Just like clothes, not everything will feel right—and it’s okay to keep exploring until it does.

Start small

Connection doesn’t require a packed social calendar.

  • Reach out to one person you’d like to know better
  • Ask a classmate to study together
  • Invite someone from your floor to grab a meal
  • Attend a campus event and start a conversation

It can feel awkward to make the first move, but most students are more open to connecting than it seems.

Find shared interests and identities

Whether you're into hiking, gaming, crafting or anything in between, there are tons of student groups, events and programs built around similar interests and identities. Shared interests often make conversations easier and connections more natural.

Review these options to meet others with similar hobbies and interests. The Center for Cultural Connections & Community is also a welcoming space where students can connect through shared identities and culture. And don’t hesitate to go to new events or try something new! College is a great time to discover new passions and explore your identity.

Know that it can take time

Finding your people doesn’t always happen overnight, and that’s okay. You can take small steps every day to build connections and feel more at home on campus. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Focus on the positives: When you meet someone new, focus on what you have in common—whether it’s a shared hobby, sense of humor or just the same favorite study spot.
  • Make space for social time: Don’t forget to take breaks and hang out. Events, clubs or even a quick chat between classes can go a long way.
  • Keep showing up: Deep friendships take time. Even if you’re just saying “hey” to someone in class or at the Rec Center, those small moments can grow into something more.

Understanding Social Connection

Connection plays a central role in overall well‑being, whether you’re building new friendships, staying close with people back home or finding community. Here are some reasons for why social connection matters:

Reduces stress and anxiety

Positive social interactions help calm the body’s stress response and can lower cortisol levels—even brief moments of connection count.

Builds resilience

Having people you trust makes it easier to handle academic pressure, conflict and life transitions.

Improves mood and sense of belonging

Connection boosts feel‑good chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine, helping reduce loneliness and increase motivation.

Supports physical health

Regular social interaction is linked to stronger immune function and better heart health over time.

You don’t need a huge friend group to feel connected—quality matters more than quantity.

Build Skills

Health Promotion has peer-led programs, events, workshops and presentations that help students meet others and develop skills for building supportive relationships.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Meet one‑on‑one with a fellow Buff to create a realistic plan for building connection. Coaches offer a supportive, judgment‑free space to talk through shyness, uncertainty or feeling overwhelmed.

Workshops and Presentations

Interactive workshops and presentations help students learn practical skills for everyday life. Topics include, but are not limited to, cultivating connection, stress management and self-care and much more.

Find Support on Campus

Connection also includes knowing when to ask for support. ñ offers resources to help students navigate loneliness, relationship stress and belonging.

Student engagement: Getting involved in student programs, events and organizations gives you countless opportunities to meet new people who share your passions, hobbies or academic goals. Whether you join a club, attend themed social gatherings or volunteer, these activities make starting conversations easier and provide common ground.

Conflict Resolution: Conflict Resolution Services helps students navigate conflict in healthy, constructive ways. These services focus on communication, understanding and problem‑solving rather than blame or punishment. Services include conflict coaching, mediation services and more.

Counseling & Psychiatric Services (CAPS): CAPS offers professional support for students through individual counseling, group therapy, workshops and skill-building sessions. CAPS can help you develop effective coping strategies, boost your confidence in social situations and learn tools for forming meaningful connections.